Compassion

Sunday night.. something unusual happened last Sunday.
Was sitting in front of the comp doing some work when I heard a cry, or was it a laughter? Wasn't sure. All I knew was the 'voice', belonged to a female and IT was coming from the outside of my front door, which soo freaked me out!!

Anyway, it stopped for about a minute or so and then it started again, continuously. Ok, now I was sure that someone's crying/wailing outside my door.
Asked myself, "Should I go check or not?"
d-UH!! Of course!!
Thinks to self, "Right, I'm in here and she's out there, and I have God. So, nothing to be afraid of, right? Right."
I got my butt off the chair, crept to the door, tip-toed ;p and peeked into the tiny hole embedded in the door. And there she was, a blonde young adult-ish girl sitting on the floor in front of the door opposite my house wailing/coughing/sobbing/crying her eyes out.

Do something!!
"Should I go out there? Maybe she wants to be left alone... Should I? What to say? What to say? Hhmm.. wonder whether she has tissues? I could go give her some and say.. WHAT!!??"
Get moving already!!
"Ok, ok... Sheesh..."
So, I got a handful of tissues, looked into the mirror, brushed my hair ;p (hey.. a girl's gotta look her best when giving emotional support k. HAhAhaha) and headed for the front door.

"Hey.. um, I don't mean to intrude and stuff but thought I'd give you.. here..."
I passed her the tissues, well.. more like placed them on her lap but I was so overwhelmed by her.. I don't know, sadness, cries.. whatever la. I just bent down and hugged her. She hugged me back and cried.. sumore.
Thinks to self, "Ok, sleeve's getting wet. Have to put this in the laundry. Darn!"
Cheryl!! Focus!! She's crying, my goSh!! And here you are thinking of your sleeve!!
"Right, right."

We stayed in that position for a while and then moved away, and I plopped myself down next to her. Of course I didn't ask her whether she was ok bcuz like d-UH!! she wouldn't be crying in the first place now, would she!!
I just sat there and teman-ed her, me keeping quiet. Hmm.. come to think of it, I didn't feel uncomfortable or awkward, at all. It felt so.. normal, like we were old buddies or something.

Anyway, she then started to apologise for making weird noises in the middle of the night (it was nearing 11pm) and kept going on about how stupid she was, that she doesn't even know why she's crying, and she's getting upset over nothing, so on and so forth ... Which, I'm sure no M.A.L.E species out there would understand. But we do, I did. *Sigh* I felt for her, I could identify with what she was crying about although neither she nor I knew why. It's a woman thing I suppose. Told her to make as much noise as she wanted cuz it REALLY helps.

She said she wished men understood women. Asked me how come they didn't *rolls eyes* (no la! didn't do it in front of her).
"Well,"I said, "Look at it this way, we do not understand ourselves, how can we expect them to??"*bursts out laughing* "Plus, we don't understand them either!!" *laughs sumore*
"Men are stupid" SHE said. *laughs even harder* "Yup, yup, they are" says me (but it's true! sometimes..)
note: always agree when comforting another

Alrighttt.. I'll get right on with it.
Before that though, I'm sure you guys sorta figured out that she has bf problems, right? K.. was just checking cuz some guys really DoN'T get it.

Anyway, I thought maybe she would prefer to be alone cuz she stopped crying and I didn't want her to stop bcuz of me. So I told her bla bla bla and that she could just knock on my door if she needed anything. What she said next really made me sad.
"I feel so lonely"
She then proceeded to pour her out to me.. or rather to herself while I was straining my ears to hear what she was mumbling about amidst the tears and all.
"Hhmm.. you know what, let me tell you MY sob story so you wouldn't feel so sad k?"
Smiled and winked at her. HAhaahHa.. yea, oh well.
"Bla bla bla. Bla bla bla. Bla bla bla.."
Yup, summed it all up in 3 sentences and she said, "Oh wow, then you have more to cry for than me."
O_O Yes, thank you very much.

And then shared with her about 'recovering', 'picking yourself up and moving on'. Yea, basically the things you tell a person so as to encourage them and make them see the brighter side of things.

This is getting boring isn't it? I'm getting a bit bored too.

Highlight of Sunday night:
- felt extremely comfy sitting next to a total stranger who's not an Asian + the fact that she wasn't doing so good
- made a new 'friend'
- used my sob story to cheer someone else
- cracked her up with crappy one liners

BUT most importantly, realised that I'm filled with compassion for these people; the broken-hearted. Not judging but just being there. When to say what and when to shut up.